Insecure love relationships plague many women, particularly young females. Although our darkest fears are occasionally justified, it is also simple to doubt our partner's feelings due to our own anxieties or a bad past relationship. Fortunately, there are various indicators that can help you determine whether your partner is truly interested in you or is simply using you for their personal gain.
We understand how perplexing relationships may be, so we'd like to throw some light on how to figure out what your partner's true goals are.
Loves you: He stares at you all the time.
Many romantic song composers had it right: a man who is truly in love with you will be unable to take his gaze away from you. When you're all dressed up for a Friday night, many men have this unique look in their eyes. He's probably in love if he looks at you with amazement and enthusiasm when you do basic things like cook dinner or put on your coat.
Uses you: He doesn’t make you feel special.
It feels like you're the same as any other lady he's ever met or any of his pals. He may continuously compare you to others or show no affection for you at all. And if you feel like you're just another face in the crowd, he probably doesn't care enough to notice you.
Loves you: He doesn’t freak out even when you expect him to.
We all have skeletons in our closets, and it's perfectly acceptable if they're a deal breaker for some people. However, if your partner knows a lot about your past, including embarrassing events, and he's still with you, he's definitely more into you than you think. It is a sign of a mature relationship and love when you embrace all of another person's sides, not just the nice ones.
Uses you: You constantly feel guilty.
It seems like you can’t do anything right starting from dealing with problems at work, to choosing food for your cat at the supermarket. If you constantly feel like no matter what you do, you’re not enough and could’ve done better, it’s time to run away from your relationship. There’s nothing wrong with trying to help your partner become a better person, but these changes should be imposed through love and care and not by making you feel guilty.
Loves you: He’s more aware of how his behavior can affect you.
We all have our own behavioral patterns, and we don't often realize how they effect others. This is a good indicator if you notice your partner is becoming more self-aware and attempting to behave in such a way that you are not offended or dissatisfied. However, if you're concerned about anything or want him to act differently, it's best to talk to him rather than expecting him to figure it out on his own. Isn't it true that your man can't read your mind?
Uses you: He disappears on you
You make plans with him, but he cancels at the last minute. Alternatively, he takes a long time to respond to your texts or phone calls. Yes, he may be busy at times, but someone who truly cares about you will make time to check in with you. If you get the impression that he doesn't respect your time, you'll probably only see him when it's convenient for him and on his timetable.
Loves you: He notices small details that make you happy.
We all enjoy huge gestures, but it's the small things that really count. He may recall your favorite ice cream flavor, a silly TV show you watch when you're upset, or the name of your first pet, for example. These gestures demonstrate that he is concerned enough to go above and beyond the usual gestures of flowers and candy (but we still love them) and engage with you on a more personal level.
Uses you: He is never ready to compromise.
Finding compromises can be difficult, especially in new relationships, but it is the objective that we should all strive for. Your partner should value your input and be willing to strike the correct balance so that you are both content. If he refuses to relinquish his "right" to make all of the decisions, it's probably time to leave such a dominating relationship.
Loves you: He opens up to you and expects you to do the same.
In our relationships, we all feel vulnerable, yet it's difficult to develop a strong one without discussing your thoughts and feelings. He trusts you and sees a future with you if he is willing to overcome his fear of rejection and be open with you about his anxieties and problems. And it goes both ways: he wants to know who you really are, and you want to know who he is.
Uses you: He emotionally manipulates you.
He understands your strengths and weaknesses and uses them to persuade you to do what he wants. No matter what, this type of connection is unacceptable. It's probably time to take a step back and analyze what's going on if you're always feeling guilty or your partner's emotions are dominating yours.
Loves you: He’s ready to talk through problems.
Although a healthy amount of emotion can actually be beneficial for resolving conflicts and keeping your partner happy, screaming won’t solve the problem. After you are both done being emotional, your partner should be ready to have a conversation to talk things over. Communication is the key to a strong relationship and a partner who loves you should be able to put his ego aside and admit he could’ve been wrong.
Uses you: He provokes you to make public scenes or stays silent for days.
We understand that things can become a little too emotional at times, but a man who loves you would never publicly embarrass you or resent you by being silent for days. These actions could be an indication of emotional manipulation, an inability to manage one's emotions, or even a sort of "punishment" for wrongdoings. A man who truly loves you would never hurt you, so if this isn't the mentality you're looking for, you should end this relationship immediately.
Have you ever been in a scenario where you felt like your partner was playing you? What were the telltale signs? Leave a comment with your tale.
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