A son needs many things from his mom that are pretty obvious — unconditional love, time spent together, to be taught various life skills, and the grace to make mistakes. But there are other things they need that we often fail to see. Here are five needs of your precious little boy, and how you can raise him to be a respectful, confident, and humble man.

A son needs many things from his mom that are pretty obvious — unconditional love, time spent together, to be taught various life skills, and the grace to make mistakes. But there are other things they need that we often fail to see. Here are five needs of your precious little boy, and how you can raise him to be a respectful, confident, and humble man.

What a Boy Needs From His Mom

Have you ever walked into your sons room and wondered if it was you? If it was you who somehow missed the mark in teaching him how not to live his life like an Orc?

You walk further in, attempting not to swear as you step on the broken LEGO’s and razor sharp rocks. You grimace as you notice the boogers on the wall, candy wrappers carelessly hidden under his pillow, and dirty shirts hung upside down in his closet. How did he even do that?

You dare to look under the bed only to find shoeboxes stacked neatly until you open them and find the trash you had asked him weeks prior to throw away within their contents.

Deeper still you wander into the abyss where you find racing striped underwear, lying face up, piles of musty towels you couldn’t find the other day, and spilled milk that has now become his science experiment.

In your frustration, you wonder where you went wrong, or if he will ever learn.

I am describing to you my 8 yo sons room on any given day, and I know many of you other mamas have the same experience upon walking into your sons rooms.

But recently, I decided to look a little deeper into the chaos and found something beautiful.

I found a mason jar filled with the dried up hummingbird moth we had found together a few months prior.

I found his collection of hundreds of rocks, each holding a memory he remembers vividly.

I found his Thor shaped wooden tree hammer we had found adventuring by the lake this past summer.

I found his books he gets lost in under his pillow and fossils we had found together as a family in Germany.

I found sticks carved into weapons that he had made with his dad, and a dried-up stink bug he attempted to make his pet.

I found so many things that make up the adventurous, courageous, and curious heart my son holds within him.

I found who my son was.

He isn’t his mess. He isn’t his shortcomings, even though most days I fail to see it.

Now having two, I can say with all honesty that I love raising boys, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. And even though I’m daily disgusted with their sticky fingers and smelly farts, I have learned to find the beauty in the chaos.

And as you most likely identify with, you also know that sometimes it’s hard to let our little peanuts go. Let them go to be who they were created to be.

Dangerous, courageous, and adventurous little spirits that sometimes need a little less control, and a little more trust.

Yes, if you’re a mother you know this need to keep them safe, and in that process we sometimes get lost and hold them too close, missing the mark as to what they need from us.

Because one of the first things your son needs from you, is to let him go.

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