When your man cheats, you feel as though the world is collapsing around you. Most women who are struggling with an unfaithful spouse or partner begin to consider solutions. We question what we did to cause him to flee into another woman's arms. We strive to come up with ideas to get him back.
People who lie lie. I'm done now. Cheating is not motivated by boredom or discontent. Cheating is a psychological weakness that causes both men and women to be able to justify breaking promises and being unfaithful. Affairs are not typical, healthy responses to typical interpersonal difficulties. Instead, they are harmful responses to difficulties that occasionally occur in most relationships and are a part of life.
Avoid torturing or embarrassing yourself by making the same errors that millions of women do when they suspect their partner is having an extramarital affair. By reducing your losses, you will save time, self-respect, and be able to have a better relationship with a more useful man.
First error: starting an investigation
The first error women make when they believe their man is cheating is sending out a fact-finding mission. Women spend their energies snooping, making calls, and questioning their partners in an effort to show what is already clear: the relationship is gravely damaged.
You don't need evidence that your man is cheating to realize that things aren't right between you two. There is no need for proof that he is in fact cheating on you—you could just be really paranoid—to know that something needs to change. You won't find the peace of mind you seek by working yourself crazy attempting to catch him cheating. You'll only come out as insane and look crazy.
Second error: Accusing the other woman
Yes, she would have to be really terrible to steal another woman's boyfriend, but that isn't the issue at all. She didn't make a commitment to you, say she would be faithful to you, and then cheat on you. More significantly, someone else would have done it if she hadn't.
Because they are cheaters, people lie. When a man lies, it's not because he was unintentionally lured by the devious attractions of another woman. She did not provide something that you did not. Not because she is superior to you, exactly. People who lie lie. They can have an affair without being tempted.
Get over your resentment of the other woman. It's erroneous. Instead, concentrate on the fact that the person you were dating broke his vow of monogamy. He would have found someone else if it weren't for her. There are countless women in the globe for him to cheat on her with, even if she disappears from the picture.
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