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The reasons why Marriages do not last these days (OPINION)


When we marry there are a million answers to know from their psyche, intimacy, money, children, aging, fidelity, stance on certain things. This deeper knowledge of the other self is not available by just going on dates.

There is a lot of pressure to be the perfect person and discharge your duties in only a particular way. One of the most judgemental questions is “Why is he/she single? Maybe there is something wrong.” With such monumental pressure from family and peers we go ahead with choices we have, just to change our relationship status.

A few years into marriage, many couples find their relationship faltering. While we are marrying a person but in reality, it is someone’s psychology. We keep matching things which have nothing to do with this and leave out the most important aspect i.e Love. There is a saying in most of our families “Go through the marriage and love will happen.” It definitely sounds nice but does not necessarily work.

Marriage is meant to be a relationship of giving. The only possible way a marriage can be sustainable is if it is comprised of two healthy individuals who are giving of themselves to their spouse. Giving of their time, their forgiveness, their patience, their commitment, their loyalty, their words, and yes, even their bodies. It is not easy. It requires hard work. It requires dedication. It requires something like a lifelong commitment. And it requires God.

Betrayal leads to the breakdown of all of the bonds that hold a relationship together: emotional, physical, spiritual. The trust, respect, loyalty, and communication are so damaged that many couples decide to divorce because they cannot find a way to get past the betrayal.



Marriage is a pretty simple concept - fall in love and share your life together. Our great grandparents did it, our grandparents followed suit, and for many of us, our parents did it as well. Why the hell can't we?


Most common reasons marriages fail :

• Lack of intimacy. ...

• An affair whether emotional or physical. ...

• Lack of clear boundaries in the relationship. ...

• Growing apart - no joint interests. ...

• Adultery is the most common reason cited for divorce. ...

• Money and finances are hot buttons for couples. ...

• Communication issues have an effect on everything in a relationship from intimacy, money, family planning. ...

• Addiction of any kind is another common reason for divorce.


Ways to keep your marriage fresh :


• Remind your partners that you appreciate them. ...

• Say thank you for the little things. ...

• Practice honesty, even when you are ashamed. ...

• Take care of your appearance. ...

• Foster relationships outside your marriage. ...

• Take eesponsibility for your own actions. ...

• Make a list of things that both leople want to change. ...

• Write out a “Contract”.


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