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Your partner is likely cheating if all these signs occur time and again (OPINION)

Loving someone means maintaining a certain level of trust, honour, and commitment, right? So why do people cheat?

What does cheating say about a person? When you cheat, it says you can't commit, you are not to be trusted, you don't care about your partner, and have no respect for him/her. So how could they still love you if they cheat?

Despite the high percentage, most people - even those who stray - will say that cheating is wrong. Risk factors such as personality disorders and childhood issues, as well as opportunities such as social media and poor boundaries, can increase the chance that one of these reasons will actually lead to some type of affair.

The desire to be unfaithful is not limited by gender, intimacy, or age. In some cases, it stems from unmet needs in a relationship. Issues like lack of communication, boredom, and personal insecurities can fester when they’re not fully addressed. If one partner feels like they’re never listened to or respected in their primary relationship, they may look for that in another person.



People sometimes cheat out of anger or a desire to get revenge.

Maybe you just discovered your partner cheated. You’re stunned and hurt. You might want to make your partner go through the same emotions so they really understand the pain they caused you.

In other words, “They hurt me, so now I’ll hurt them” is often the driving thought behind retaliatory infidelity.

One of the most common reasons for infidelity is the feeling that you and your partner have drifted apart. In this case, cheating can feel like a way of finding something new and exciting when your relationship has become predictable and familiar.


Your partner is cheating if the following signs occur frequently :


1. Their schedule changes with no good explanation.

Most people have predictable schedules, and even if their schedule changes, there’s usually a reason that makes sense.


2. The phone goes everywhere with them.

First, a caveat: Some people are seriously hooked on their phones and tote them along out of habit, or boredom—that doesn’t mean they’re cheating. The issue arises if this is suddenly a new thing for your partner.


3. Unexplained expenses.

If there are odd charges on your partner’s credit cards, or there is suddenly less money in your or your partner’s bank accounts, retirement accounts, investment accounts, etc., that’s a possible sign of infidelity.


4. Emotional intimacy has faded.

if your partner suddenly seems less emotionally vulnerable and intimate with you and does not seem to want you to be emotionally vulnerable and intimate, that’s a strong indication that their focus has shifted — most likely to an affair partner.


5. You can’t find them or reach them.

Couples that have been together for a while tend to know each other’s schedule. If he or she is not where they are supposed to be, or if they are not doing what they tell you they are doing, it might be time to sit down and ask them what is going on.


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