Change is hard! It's hard to break patterns of behavior, positive or negative, once we've established them. For many women, there are some "walking" patterns we strive for that can have a devastating effect on our marriages. Remember that every relationship is different. This list is not meant to mislead anyone; Rather, it is a tool to help you reflect on some of the most common pitfalls that can occur in our marriages.
It's easy to become blind to your own bad coping mechanisms as I've learned from personal experience. Before we can grow and change, we must first realize how our automatic responses are hurting us. Here are four things a wife should avoid in her marriage.
1. Stop looking for ways to make your marriage perfect.
Marriage is a work of love. It takes a lot of effort to be one of two people, especially when the questions are: "Who makes the decisions", "Who will be the head of the house" and "Who controls the TV remote control?"
2. Stop revealing the worst to your partner
it's too easy. The husband's role is to show the best to his wife. Husbands do this by helping their wives get what they want as long as it's not illegal, immoral, or too expensive. Women get the most out of their husbands by treating them like heroes, even if they sometimes act like nothings.
3. Ignore rumors:
Gossip is for singles, not married couples like you. You should not have such a role if you prefer to immerse yourself in other people's affairs after marriage. The best thing to do when your friend is pressuring you is to ignore them.
4. Stop putting your friends in front of your husband.
We all need a support system, but a fine line needs to be drawn between having your own tribe and leaving your partner for the benefit of your friends. Friends may feel lighter or funnier than your partner after years of marriage. Friendship is not burdened by the additional obligations of married life.
It's strange how much easier it is to forgive your best friend than it is to forgive your man. We may tend to place comfort above relationships that should be the most important in our lives.
Our marriage must be our number one priority. Our marriages will suffer if we don't make the conscious choice to prioritize each other. Choose wisely what friendships you invest in. These people should surround your marriage with helpful advice, encouragement, joy, and support.
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