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What do you do now that you’re bored with your relationship?

What do you do now that you’re bored with your relationship?

The answer is simple. What do you want to do? What’s the first solution your mind gives you? Do you want to fix it or do you want to move on?

Work hard towards a better relationship and fix it. Or talk to your partner and take a temporary break from each other.

You don’t have too many options here. If you’re bored with your relationship, it’s better to confront it now or both of you may end up hating each other and move towards a messy breakup in the future. [

How to bring the fun into a boring relationship

A boring relationship is not all out of hope just yet. There is plenty you can do to make things fun again. Break out of your routine. Turn your boring relationship into an exciting one by using these tips.

1. Talk about it

To stop your relationship from continuing down its boring path, the first and best thing you can do is talk about it. If you and your partner aren’t on the same page, it will not work out.

Mention that you feel like your relationship has fallen into a rut and you want to shake things up. Throw out some ideas like going away for the weekend, rock climbing, or just exploring a nearby town.

2. Push yourself to be spontaneous

Some people might head to the airport and get on the first flight leaving. But if that is too much for you, we get it. So instead, make small gestures.

Surprise your partner at work and take them for lunch. Set up a fun backyard date for when they get home. Or plan a secret date and have them do the same. But, make sure that your partner is making the same level of effort – this isn’t going to work if it’s just you attempting to inject the fun back into your relationship.

3. Include others

Even though you’re aware that your relationship needs a perk up, once date night comes around, what is stopping you from plopping down on the sofa and watching TV?

Invite others into your plans to give yourself more accountability. If you have a double date planned, you are less likely to cancel or fall into your rut. Ask another couple you know to go bowling, mini-golfing, or to an escape room. This keeps things exciting, and hanging out with other couples can keep things fresh.

4. Try new things together

Now, there is nothing wrong with being a planner, but sometimes it’s good to just break out of the routine and do something different. So, why not try new things together?

If you always do dinner and a movie, instead sign up for cooking lessons or tennis lessons. Go scuba diving or learn how to dance or speak another language. Learning new things together is fun, brings you back to school days, and shows you how good you are together.

5. Do something physical

Okay, get your head out of the gutter. We mean couple’s yoga, kickboxing, or even an adventure camp full of zip-lines and trust exercises. These will get you back in the swing of things physically and help you remember what your relationship might be lacking.

You can even paint a room, plant a garden, or wash the car together. These may seem like silly household chores, but they are great ways to have fun while accomplishing something together. When your blood is pumping and you’re being active, your mood increases and that definitely helps things along.

6. Spice up your sex life

Never underestimate the importance of sex in a relationship. It’s something that bonds you together and creates that intimacy relationships need.

If your sex life needs some attention, make it a point to spice up your bedroom time. Try sexting, role play, dirty talk, new positions, or buy some lingerie and surprise your partner.

Even heading away for a weekend and getting down and dirty in a hotel might be all you need to reignite the spark that’s been lacking! 

Sometimes none of these will work. That doesn’t mean your relationship is beyond repair, just that you may need a helping hand in repairing it.

Couples therapy can give you a closer look at what got you into a boring relationship in the first place so you can find the perfect way to have fun again.

Switching up your routine and reigniting the flame can work, but finding a professional who can get to know you and your partner on a deeper level will help you tremendously.

What if nothing helps at all?

If you’ve tried all of the above and nothing feels any different, or the changes don’t last, you need to sit down and seriously think about the future of your relationship. While it’s normal for things to settle down past the first honeymoon phase, that doesn’t mean you should put up with a boring, lacking-in-spark relationship. 

You both need to make an effort to make a relationship work, but that shouldn’t be an exhausting workload either.

If it’s simply not working and you’re tired of feeling uninspired, perhaps it’s time to wave goodbye and find fulfillment in yourself for a while. That could mean a relationship break or a full stop. It’s up to you. 

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