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15 Signs You're Not In Love, You're Just Afraid Of Being Alone.

I'll admit it: I'm one of those individuals who can't stand being single, even if they've won the lottery. Being single isn't easy, especially when you consider how stressful it can be to find someone who is compatible with you.

That said, it's all too easy for someone like myself to get a little carried away when it comes to dating. With this type of hallucination, you'll believe you're falling for your recent date, even if it's obvious it won't work out in the long run. And your dread of being alone has a lot to do with it.

Are you unsure if you're truly in love? Look for these telltale signals that you're lonely and solely interested in being taken.

You're Not Really in Love, You're Just Afraid of Being Alone. Here are 15 Signs You're Not Really in Love, You're Just Afraid of Being Alone.

1. You know very little about them.

So you've gone on three dates. You know he works at a local software firm and enjoys video games. That's all there is to it. But he's the one, oh, he's the one. You're sure it's true... but it's not!

If you don't know who he is, you prefer the concept of him to the actual person.

2. You find yourself blaming them for everything they do wrong.

There's always a fresh reason. It was because he didn't have Pepto Bismol when he belched in a 5-star restaurant. He was in a foul attitude when he cursed out your buddies, and he was drunk at the time.

Does this describe you? Get up! You're not in love with this guy. It's a guy you really want to keep because you believe it's better than being alone, despite the fact that it's the polar opposite.

3. You have the impression that your relationship is shallow.

Even if you don't want it to be, if the relationship has an oddly shallow vibe, it could be a superficial relationship. A true, deep love will never feel like this.

4. Your relationship appears to be extremely strained.

It's normal for most partnerships to have times when it's difficult to stay together. What isn't okay is when everything feels forced, like you're fighting an uphill struggle all the time, and you can't seem to catch a break.

If he isn't putting forth any effort, it's reasonable to assume the relationship is over and you must accept that he isn't in love with you.

5. If you're being completely honest with yourself, you're terrified of being alone.

When we are in a panic, we make rash decisions. In the event of a fire, we may panic and re-enter a risky place in order to retrieve our prized asset. In a "relationship fire," we may feel compelled to stay with someone who isn't good for us because it's all we have.

6. You've been asked what you and your partner have in common, and you're stumped.

Assuming you don't have anything in common that's highly forbidden, this only shows how mismatched you are. You have to wonder what you're doing with yourself if you can't even answer this question.

7. You're uncomfortable around them.

This is usually a hint that you aren't interested in someone. You need to confront the truth if you're denying your gut feeling: He's not the one for you.

8. You feel in love with them to some extent, but it's just because "this is it."

Do you fear that if he slips through your fingers, you'll be cursed to be alone? If this is the case, it's a good indication that you're more interested in the taken status than in him.

9. You hide pieces of yourself on a frequent basis to placate them or keep them around.

You're not in love if you're literally hiding pieces of your personality, hobbies, or opinions. You're attempting to transform yourself into someone you believe would want that person, or into someone with whom that person would fall in love.

10. Being able to brag about them to your friends is the best part about being with them.

If this is your primary interest, you might want to consider it for a moment. To you, his most appealing trait is that he stands next to you. Is that what you'd call love?

11. Your talks are forced or centered on your happiness.

People who are truly in love rarely have to force a discussion. It's something that just happens, and it's something about which you're usually in agreement.

12. When you're alone, you panic.

This is a strong indicator that you're at danger for this type of conduct and should be concerned about your mind playing tricks on you. If you find yourself in this circumstance on a regular basis, the chances of it being a "not in love" situation are extremely high.

13. You consider them a "stopover" or a temporary measure until you can discover a better choice.

If this is the case, then you must quit deceiving yourself. That isn't love, and you aren't mad at him. Until you find anything better, you're relying on him.

14. You want to make a difference in their lives.

That isn't how love works. You don't simply shape him into the person you want him to be. He isn't made of clay. Don't try to convert him into someone you want him to be if you can't stand him the way he is.

15. You frequently feel the need to persuade others that you are the one.

The majority of the time, this is done because individuals can sense when something is forced. As a result, don't try to explain things until they suit your preconceived notions. Rather than dealing with this one, focus on finding the perfect guy.

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