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How To Know you not ready for Marriage| opinion

1) You Are Scared of Being Alone

A lot of people cannot stand being alone and I mean alone, in the context of being in a romantic relationship. Not alone in the context of having nobody in your life.

Nobody can survive as an island, we all need somebody or people in our corner that love and care about us.

But you can find these people in friends and family and not necessarily in a romantic relationship.

Now, this is not to mean that you shouldn’t desire the companionship that comes from romantic relationships.

What I am speaking against here is desperation for one that pushes you into marriage without proper consideration.

Plus, really, you cannot properly function in a healthy marriage if you are not a whole person who is complete and happy in herself/himself without that relationship.

So, what am I saying in essence? If you find you are scared of being alone, that’s not the time to jump into a relationship.

Instead, it is time to take stock of your life, find yourself and what makes you happy and whole, then you can be ready to share that life with someone else.


Your Core Values Don’t Align

Now, this is for those in a relationship.

You really shouldn’t be considering marrying someone with whom you don’t agree in core principles of life.

Trust me, the feelings you have today that you feel can sustain that difference can only do so much.


Your Relationship Is Shallow

This is a big sign that not just you, but your partner is not ready for marriage. As we all know, there are many reasons why people get into relationships.

The most popular are sex and money but we also have reasons like prestige, looks, career, fear of singleness and so on.

Whatever shallow reason it might be, if your relationship does not have depth, if you don’t love the core of who the person is and vice versa, then you probably shouldn’t be getting married.


You Have Unresolved Baggage

Some of us have unresolved baggage from our childhood or past relationships.

There is no shame in it. But until they are resolved, in fact, I’d advise that you stay out of relationships completely not to talk of marriage.

If not, you will keep finding yourself in a vicious cycle of hurt or you will make your partner pay for what they had no part of.

You Are Expecting Perfection

Perfection eludes us as humans. And while we all know this, not everybody actually follows this in reality.

Some people – even while recognising their obvious imperfection – do not tolerate imperfection in others.

Trust me, you will not find a perfect human. So, if that’s what you are expecting of your partner, it might be better to let them be.

Now, this is not to say to accept abuse in the form of imperfection. No, we are talking flaws that we all seem to have.

What you should be looking for is someone who genuinely loves you, does not deliberately hurt you, whose values align with you and whose flaws you can tolerate.

So, it goes without saying that you have to determine the flaws that you can handle and the ones you can absolutely not take.

Remember, however, to be realistic when doing that, because, like I said earlier, nobody is perfect.

 

You Are Not Ready to Compromise or Make Sacrifices

There is no healthy relationship that can survive without necessary sacrifices and compromises.

Love is not just about feeling butterflies; it is also sacrificial.

Remember that you will be marrying someone from a completely different background from you, so you will not agree on everything.

And that’s where compromises and sacrifices come in, on both sides. If this is something you are not ready to do, you are not ready to get married.

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