Well as we know love involves physical attraction, but it is far deeper and more mysterious. Even those who find themselves in very satisfying relationships may sometimes ask themselves. " How do i know if this is the right partners for me ?"
Love encompasses these three tripods : physical attraction, mutual expectations and personal intentions.
Below I'll be sharing 4 basic principles of love according to a marriage counselor.
1. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN VERBAL PROMISES OF LOVE
In a relationship, if your partner fulfills your needs, or atleast recognises that it is important for you to find time and space to fulfill your needs, you are likely to feel positively towards him/ her. Couples always need to review one another's needs and work towards helping one another to have their needs fulfilled.
2 LOVE REQUIRES A RECIPROCAL INVESTMENT FROM BOTH PARTIES.
We often hear clichés such as ' love requires give and take', it's a 50/50 affair. If only relationships were that simple. It is difficult to ensure that partners invest equally in the relationship. For example not every person has the same capacity for showing affection. The goal should be for each partner to make an investment in the relationship that she/he is capable of making and which fulfills the partners needs. The partner should reciprocate by making positive attempts to satisfy some of the other person's needs too. Both are required to contribute positive actions and or make some sacrifices in the relationship.
3. LOVE NEEDS MANAGEMENT
Since we all unique and have different ways we usually see things,when in a committed relationship the couple have to develop explicit rules to ensure that the relationship remains mutually satisfying. These rules are often linked to values such as the amount of independence that each should be allowed in the relationship, or how much money should be spent or saved, or kinds of leisure time activities that they should participate in etc. In the intimate relationship the partners need to work out ways to resolve conflicts, make mutually satisfying decisions.
4. THE GOAL IS TO BE REASONABLY CONTENT
Relationships are complicated and demanding, so the goal for couples should be to be just reasonably content. Meaning that each should take stock of the partner's strengths and weaknesses and weigh these up to see if they can be tolerated without resentment. Each couple should work towards developing a greater acceptance of each other so the relationship will be recognized for its merits. To remain in an unsatisfying relationship will result in one or both partner's falling out of love , or one or both partner's becoming neurotic or psychologically stressed.
I hope the read up was helpful and informative, please do leave your comment , would love to hear your views or opinions. Take care💛
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