Dating is difficult. Finding love is harder. However, what is even more difficult is to go on a date and find true love as a strong and independent woman. You have a happy and meaningful life and you don’t “need” a man to complete you or make you happy. You have a great career, fulfilling passions and hobbies, have supportive friends and family and you genuinely love yourself. However, for some reason, you find it hard to attract decent guys who would love you and care about you for who you are. Are independent and mentally strong women doing something wrong? Are they unlovable because they love themselves? Or are they too independent to let a man take the lead in a relationship?
The independent woman is happy with her life. That doesn’t mean she is not looking for a man to love her and care for her. However, she is not going to spend every waking hour of her life looking for a guy. Although she doesn’t necessarily want to be alone, she is not one to make dating the most important thing in her life. This is perhaps exactly what repels most guys and that’s exactly where the problem lies. Just because a strong woman doesn’t need a man, doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want one.
Allow me ask you what do you think a strong and independent woman is like? Someone who is happy with themselves? Someone who can take care of themselves? Someone who is comfortable being alone? That is exactly what an independent woman is. Someone who is self-reliant, self-aware, and self-loving. Someone who is not desperate to find a partner. Someone who can support themselves, financially and emotionally. Someone who is happy just by being who they are. She knows how to make things happen and how to get things done. She is motivated and passionate about her education, her career, and her life. She goes all out to pursue her dreams and she does it all on her own. However, somewhere she has been programmed to believe that she can’t rely on any man to help get where she wants to. To be there for her. To support her. To love her. And this makes her a bit suspicious of men who try to treat her right and be nice to her. She finds it hard to accept such generosity from men as she believes there are some conditions attached to it.
When you are a strong woman, it can be really challenging to meet a man who meets your standards. As you have a fulfilling and meaningful life yourself, you have a long wish list of qualities and traits you want in your man. However, most guys lack the confidence, courage, and strength to take the pressure and show you the love you truly deserve.
Most men don’t know how to deal with women who are strong and independent, especially if you are more successful than them. Their inferiority complex holds them back from approaching you and even if they did, it would lead to a disastrous relationship. With very few men out there who are as mentally strong and independent as you are, you will find dating a stressful experience.
Being a confident, self-reliant, and self-loving person, you don’t feel needy or desperate for a boyfriend or a relationship. Therefore, you’re not comfortable with a guy who is too clingy or needy. eing independent, you have your own dreams and passions to follow and you want your man to pursue his own interests as well. Someone who will challenge you to grow yet loves and support you at the same time. To the wrong guy, this kind of behaviour can make you look cold and heartless as he thinks you don’t value him enough.
Independent women love their alone time. You enjoy your own company and you are comfortable with being just by yourself, unwinding and reflecting after a hard day of work. However, you also crave company and the warmth that the unconditional love of a man can offer you. This can make you more confused than you need to be. Does it mean that you can’t get a boyfriend? Does it mean you can’t attract men as you scare them away? No. You can definitely attract men with your confidence and charisma. The question is can you attract the men you want to attract? Can you attract the right men?
Smart, successful, independent and strong women are usually comfortable with their masculine energy, sometimes even more than the feminine energy that makes them loving and receptive. This is why she finds it hard to build a meaningful, loving and lasting relationship. However, this masculine energy does not help her in attracting a loving, caring soulmate. That doesn’t mean she can’t attract men. The problem is she ends up attracting all the wrong men. Attracting men is easy for independent women. The kind of man who relies on his woman to provide for him and do all the hard work. Weak and submissive men who don’t respect themselves and in turn are unable to respect her. As long as you want to take the lead in a relationship, you will only attract men who are willing to be your followers. Men who are comfortable with their feminine energy, sometimes even more than the masculine energy that makes them protective, loving and provide for you.
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