Raising children as a single parent, whether you’re a mother or father, can be exhausting. It takes focus, strength and determination to succeed, but it can be done. I am living proof that it can be done.
So, if we accept that each and every one of us are where we are because of decisions that we’ve made, we will be more willing to make better decisions. Life doesn’t have an eraser, and as long as we continue to make bad choices we will come up short. Life is not perfect, we will all fail from time to time. However, don’t let poor decision making be what’s driving you.
You should know that when you decide to change courses, drive will be what takes you from Point A to Point B and beyond. If you don’t have any drive get some. You must be willing to dig deep inside of yourself when you feel you can’t go on. Furthermore, you must be willing to make sacrifices. Life isn’t easy, and the world doesn’t owe you anything just because of you’re a single parent.
Most importantly, I refused to allow myself to fall into the stereotypes that society has set aside for single mothers. Have you noticed that single dads are praised for their endeavours, but women are looked at differently? Unfair maybe, but it is indeed a fact. I refused to depend on the system to take care of me or my children, and I have no regrets about my decision. I believe the system should be a stepping stone if it’s going to be used. That is simply my belief and it is important to note that I do not consider myself an expert. I don't have this single parenting thing all figured out and it's honestly been a trial by fire. Here are some tips that I believe can help you succeed if like me, you're raising little people on your own.
Decide that you’re going to make it and nothing will stop you. You have to be focused and determined.
When the going gets tough, dig deep within and find the strength. Know the strength is there and your child or children need you to plow on.
Trust Your Gut
Listen to your own intuition, most of the time it is right. I’ve lost count of the number of times I looked the other way when I should have been paying attention to that little voice inside.
Set An Example
Become the person that you would like them to be. Think about the characteristics that are important to you, honesty, reliable, etc.
You must plan in order to be successful. Decide what you want to do and what you need to do to accomplish your goals for yourself and your babies.
Don't Neglect Yourself
You need to feel good about yourself. When you feel good about yourself you’ll achieve more.
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