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16 days of activism is a sham: Kabelo and JubJub prove that South Africa is broken

This past week has been a whirlwind of accusations against prominent figures in our country and it only shows one thing. The 16 days of activism is only for show. The issue of abuse against women is deeper than a performative campaign.

I remember quite a few years ago being in high school and seeing a PSA on television by the Brothers for Life campaign and feeling uncomfortable as Patrick Shai spoke of his experience as an abuser.

I recall feeling shocked, uneasy and then quickly, tried to rationalize it. I tried to make it okay and maybe for that campaign, it was. But there is too much centering of the inflictors of violence than the victims. It's a conversation no one wants to have.


Last week, Kabelo Mabalane faced backlash over his admission of abuse as part of the #NoExcuse campaign and rightfully so. The problem of abuse in South Africa is so broad and spread out that to nonchalantly admit to abuse and frame it as a unintentional act is cruel and shouldn't be encouraged.

Instead of taking the criticism of the campaign seriously though, the organizers doubled down on their choice of spokesperson, claiming Kabelo was now being bullied. According to TimesLive they said, “We must treat someone who came out and spoke about what's going on in their lives as if they are the only one in the world who made that mistake [...] He came out to say what he said to us and we must stop bullying Kabelo.”

This was bad enough with Jub Jub's interview with MacG on his podcast. It had been something most people were looking forward to, I wasn't one of them. His interview only further proved the arrogance he displays on his show, Uyajola99. It turns out I was right to be skeptical when Amanda Du Pont stepped forward to level accusations of rape and abuse against him along with Masechaba Khumalo.


All this to say that the conversation of abuse against women is being intercepted by the men who perpetrate it. It can't possibly be easy to have your pain dredged up again because someone else decided to tell à story that belonged to you. Every woman a story. It's a teachable moment here but no one wants to learn.


Abuse talks should not have abusive men at the helm. Known abusers should be de-platformed instead of being rewarded with shows and screentime. There is a lack of contrition and instead of accountability we're being asked to forget. It seems like we'll remain the country with the highest GBV rates if this is how we deal with abuse.


To all the women out there with harrowing stories too traumatic to tell. You are valid. You are worthy. You did NOT deserve it.


Thank you for your time!


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