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In this day and age a similar debate unfolds; what comes first… the lobola or the proposal?

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By GavinSebushi | self meida writer
Published 19 days ago - 2 views

When you have the marriage conversation with your accomplice unexpectedly, definitely you would talk about your social foundations as these will in general decide the request for the commitment lobola measure? Some time ago, lobola *WAS* the commitment. Your accomplice inquiring as to whether he/she can move toward your folks was/is as yet seen as a proposition. Examining the 'rules of commitment' live, Via and Mthaux found that more youthful grown-ups need to wear two rings much the same as in the western culture, and there isn't anything amiss with that. This implies that for them; the proposition/commitment precedes the "vula mlomo" (the proposer's presentation and solicitation for favors from the families to wed the "proposee").

For the individuals who incline toward that the lobola arrangements start things out, it very well may be on the grounds that it is accepted that, that is the manner by which one requests an individual's hand in marriage prior to proposing. Along these lines, generally, the cows return home before anybody gets down on one knee. Customarily, some consider it to be an indication of regard to request your accomplice's hand in marriage and doing the 'magadi' measure (as known in seSotho and seTswana culture) before some other "present day" conventions.

However, stand by a moment. So the "commitment first" group actually will keep the component of shock, isn't that so? however, the "lobola first" group are engaged with the interaction accordingly consent to wed the chap/woman/individual by essentially being available at the arrangements? indeed?

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