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Husband and wife relationship

My Degree is my inheritance from my husband and I dedicate it to him

On Friday, a Mzimkhulu widow will walk across the University of Fort Hare (UFH) graduation stage, remembering her husband, who encouraged her to study when others thought a woman's place was at home. Cophelisa, Precious Xaba's spouse, supported her desire to leave her marital home to pursue a university education. The 28-year-old is about to receive his legal degree.

Precious Xaba's husband backed her decision to leave her marital home to pursue a university degree.

Her husband died in 2019 while she was in her third year of studies. "I met my hubby when I was fifteen," she said. My first love was him. We married when I was 17 years old and I was pursuing a BCom degree. However, other villages believed that a makoti's (African bride) responsibility was to look after her husband and give birth to numerous children, rather than to attend education, especially university, so I dropped out.

My husband, on the other hand, disagreed and encouraged me to return to school to complete my studies." Xaba moved to the UFH East London campus in 2017 after leaving her husband, an artist, and her three-year-old daughter.

"Being over 500 kilometers away from my family was difficult." I considered dropping education, but my husband kept supporting me, stating that he wanted his wife to be the village's first graduate makoti. As a result, I stayed." In the year 2019, her husband became unwell. "He was admitted to the hospital after only four days in our new home." I had to leave during my examinations to return home.

When I was in the hospital, I remarked to one of the doctors that I was considering dropping out of education to care for my sick husband. He overheard the talk while lying on his deathbed. My spouse, who was unable to talk, raised his hand in opposition of my request to drop out. He died a week later. "I dressed in black after his burial as a show of grieving his loss and returned to college to fulfill his wish for me." "While on campus and during my lectures, I shed many tears and had near-collapse moments," Xaba stated.

Since then, Xaba has formed a support group to assist other women in her village in enrolling in university. "I met the love of my life when I was 15, married at 17, became a widow at 25, and am now graduating at 28." My scars are a gorgeous outfit made of hell fire that I wear as my best apparel. Dear Cophelisa, I hope you will see today that I did not give up; "This degree is my husband's heritage, and I devote it to him."


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