It seems most times the problems we have with ourselves as humans are saying what is not ready to be put forth. We all seem to have this problem and most times there are countless reasons why we do this. To let people know that we are somebody who also has his worth. We try to make ourselves look bug, try to talk others down, try to talk others down, and sometimes try to gain respect aggressively.
We are ready to say anything that can be said to have a stand in a position that is of worth, and make people see us as important too. And in the process, we say more than we actually should. Have you ever thought of the importance of silence? Have you ever thought of the reason why you have been given two lips and a brain to think? The main reason is for you to know by reasoning the right time to talk, and the right time not to.
To be able to envisage where are our words are needed to be heard or when to be silent even when the situation and circumstance around us seemingly want us to speak out. Yes, life can be a bit complicated and demanding. It can throw you off balance and give you no reason to be logical.
However, since you have no control over many situations, you do have control over your own life. Look at yourself more than you look at others. Saying too much is providing an arsenal for you to get hurt. Being mysterious on the other hand makes people go the extra mile to be your friend. You do not want to give them any ammunition to attack. Be still in your conversations and thoughts. And keep the people around guessing. Keep them wondering and looking over their shoulder for you. They will yell at you. You do nothing. You say nothing. They will come calling for you when you do not want to. You are not doing them a favor. You are doing yourself a favour.
Hearing nothing from you will give them much to think about when they want to approach you. You will become that guy or that girl that makes them become unsure of themselves. Your silence disrupts their confidence. It breaks their flow of thoughts regarding you. They just do not know how to get to you anymore. You or a reason to. It doesn't give them any means or a reason to. It's a man who goes to a party with friends and doesn't dance. No one will laugh at him about his dance moves, because you have not danced. Instead of trying to give them reasons as to why you are better, why not be quiet and steadily walk towards your dreams. Bearing in mind that you have a goal better than the circumstances around you
We've heard the popular expression ''silent is the best response to a fool''. The people around you do not necessarily need to be proven as fools because the whole essence of going down a particular path is for your own sake. Why don't you keep them confused by your silence, keep them entirely thinking about you while you stay focused on your goals.
Nobody is you, and that's what makes the difference. The moment you start bearing in mind that nobody knows anything about you is the moment you begin to understand that talking to convince people about who you are does not really work. You do not really need to tell them. Let them find out. Do not give them exactly what they need to say about you. Let them play the guessing game. You do not need to respond to anything they say if their intention is to draw a negative reaction from you. Just leave them in silence and let your actions do the talking. All you are required to do is listen. Let them seek your rewards. Let them find it hard to figure you out.
What is more fun than giving people nothing revealing about you, while you live your life to the fullest?
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